self love Archives - Tracey Cardello
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    Struggling with depression?

    If you are struggling with depression, you are probably aware you lack compassion toward yourself. Lack of self-love is one of the worst contributors to mental health problems. Many people come in with depression, anxiety, relationship problems, and eating disorders and discover that they have overwhelming compassion for everyone but themselves. This is especially true for people who identify as themselves as an empath or very empathic. Nearly 100% of the time, we uncover a total lack of self-love or self-compassion. If all of your compassion is directed outward, you will be left feeling drained, overwhelmed, depressed, depleted, and lethargic. Energy therapy can help you correct the imbalances and go…

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    Adult attachment and relationships

    The quality of adult relationships hinges on a number of factors including adult attachment. Do you ever look at the couples around you and wonder how they stay together? I’m impressed by couples who seem to navigate life’s ups and downs with grace and commitment to their relationship. A lot of couples aren’t so happy. Many have a difficult time because of outside circumstances or situations of their own making. Relationships are hard because we each bring our own unique perspective and psychology to them. We each believe our perspective is the correct one and we each feel like what we give is more significant than what we get in…

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    May is mental health awareness month

    In honor of mental health awareness month, I decided to blog a daily idea for improving your outlook and lifting yourself out of depression, sadness, anxiety, loss, betrayal, or anger.  Frequently the focus of mental health is actually an illness.  I want to direct the conversation toward health, positivity, and self-love. So here is this week’s list.  Stop comparing yourself to other people. You are unique and unlike anyone else. When you compare yourself, you ignore your inner self and limit your self-expression. Be you. Set goals for yourself.  Every day.  Set one small goal to be happy. Keep yourself always moving forward. Smile in the mirror. Yes. Smile at yourself.  It…

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    Why forgiveness matters.

    “Forgive and forget” is one of the most widely used platitudes. It is simple advice taught to children but rarely followed by adults. Adults always find a way to avoid or explain away the need for one or both parts. We avoid forgiveness in order to maintain our sense of righteous indignation. We avoid forgetting in order to stay safe from future slights or assaults. Or so we think… I spoke to my cousin after a very long estrangement. My parents had ended their relationship with her many years before and were against my reunion. Then, a huge tragedy rocked my family and she wanted to be included. My father…

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    HBLU for trauma therapy

    I have practiced trauma therapy for almost two decades. Clients who have worked with me over the last 3 years have heard me talk about HBLU for trauma therapy and more. Many of my clients have tried it and experienced the positive results and lasting benefits. People have seen their lives improve. I realize that HBLU or “Healing from the body level up” is not yet a household name, but it should be. I became a therapist because therapy helped me as a child. I studied psychodynamic psychotherapy because that was the background of the therapists who helped me the most. Throughout my career, I have loved learning about human…